The EXACT Process To Go From Single To Married

It's a skill, not luck

We've worked with so many women who came to us heartbroken, or with a love life that felt non-existent, watching people close to them get married and start families. Finding and building a healthy relationship isn't about luck, timing or being the most beautiful woman. It is a skill, and like any skill, you can learn it. That's why we created our five-step Formula To Finding Love.

The 5-step Formula To Finding Love

1. Heal

If we don't heal, old wounds, past trauma and heartbreak carry into dating and into your next relationship. With our clients, we work with the body and nervous system, and with what we call Love Blocks: subconscious beliefs about yourself, men, dating and marriage that shape how you show up.

2. Clarify

Get clear on exactly what you want. Every client success story tells us this makes dating easier and makes choosing a man ten times easier.

3. Embody

Embodiment is being in the practice of something until it becomes the new normal. Many women have been practicing shutting down their voice, collapsing, avoiding, or dating fast, skipping red flags and dating the same type of man with a different face. Who do you get to become so it's normal for the man you want to show up, and stay?

4. Date

This is where you get a dating plan and structure: the three ways to meet someone, and the phases of dating so you're not skipping red flags, you know if you can trust a man before commitment, and you take your time.

5. Create

It's not only attracting a man, it's maintaining a relationship: communicating your needs, setting boundaries and building rituals so you stay on the same page and the relationship grows naturally toward marriage.

The 3 beliefs that keep women single

"If it's meant to be, it will be."

It sounds safe, but it creates what we call passive surrender, sitting on the sidelines waiting for a man to show up at your door. Before Kelley and I met, she realized faith isn't passive. She hired coaches, aligned her actions with her desires, and sent me a DM. That DM turned into a relationship, an engagement, a marriage and now our baby.

Our client Ashanti wanted a vegan man who was emotionally available and wanted marriage and a family. That's a tiny fraction of the population. She didn't sit and hope. She followed the process, got coaching weekly, met that man, and is now in a committed, healthy relationship.

"I need to be fully healed before I meet someone."

I believed this for a long time. But when Kelley and I got together, I still had trust wounds from being cheated on in the past, even after so much healing work. There's personal healing, and there's relational healing, which only happens when you're dating or in a relationship.

It's not about being perfectly healed. It's about being ready enough.

Jonnemarie spent ten years in situationships. She didn't reach perfection, she got ready enough with support. Now she's married and her marriage keeps growing.

"I shouldn't have to hire a dating coach to learn dating skills."

I thought if I just became attractive enough, at the gym, a good haircut, eating well, I'd find love. My relationships lasted about three months on average, because I didn't know how to open up or communicate until resentment came out all at once. Hiring a dating coach shifted that. I took ownership and stopped waiting for luck. These are skills you can learn.

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